Trisha’s birthday

Happy birthday to my youngest aunt

She is my mother’s youngest sister, the youngest of all my mother’s siblings and the member of that generation closest to my own age.

Trisha01She was an aunt before she was born — her oldest niece was two years and nine months her senior — and she has outlived both parents, three of her six brothers and all five of her sisters.

And today is her birthday.

My aunt Trisha is one of those very special people every family has — a bridge between the past and the present, someone who knows what it’s like to cry, someone who knows how to make others laugh, someone who helps bind us all together even as she blazes her own path.

And today is her birthday.

Trisha02She was born an unspecified number of years ago1 in the same West Texas town where so many of her siblings was born and where they all were raised. All I will say is that she didn’t make it onto the 1940 census of Midland, Texas, where her parents, my grandparents Clay and Opal (Robertson) Cottrell, and so many of her siblings — including my mother — were enumerated.2

As you can see from the photos, she grew from an adorable toddler into a beautiful little girl. In 1951, she sent a letter to my mother — it’s one of my prized possessions:

Thanks alot for the quarter. How are you, … I am getting along good in shool. … Bing3 is a rascal. He eats eggs and gets in bed with Jerry4 with muddy feet. Now do you see what I mean about Bing being a rascal? The school sells icecream everyday. This is the kind they sell. Bananas, chocolate, and orange. If icecream wouldn’t melt Id send you some. I will write again as soon as you anser me. You might as well be waiting for another letter. When I write a person a letter I like for them to sit right down and anser me just then. … Please anser soon.5

Trisha05And she grew from a beautiful little girl into a gorgeous woman… and into the treasure she has become for all of us. A daughter, a sister, a wife (now of more than 50 years), a mother, an aunt, she was there during the very best of times for my family and for the very worst.

She has fought cancer, lost her own father — my grandfather — on her birthday in 1970, been saddled with family responsibilities — and has never once forgotten how to laugh.

She has been my co-conspirator at times, my mentor at others, and above all else my friend.

What you see below is another of my prized possessions. It’s a photo from more years ago than any of us would care to admit.

I am the toddler being held in this last picture, and Trisha the dark haired girl on the left holding me up along with my cousin, her niece Betsy. The others are also her nieces — my cousin Kay on the far left, my sister Diana on the far right.


Today is Trisha’s birthday.

May there be many more to come.

And may I be able to hold her up once or twice in the years to come, to at least begin to say thanks for all the times that she has held me up in my life.


  1. I am not about to put that information out in a public post. I don’t have her permission… and she knows where I live.
  2. 1940 U.S. census, Midland County, Texas, Midland City, population schedule, enumeration district (ED) 165-3A, page (illegible)(B) (stamped), sheet 7(B), household 161, C R Cottrell household; digital image, ( : accessed 20 Sep 2013); citing National Archive microfilm publication T627, roll 4105.
  3. A new puppy acquired in 1951.
  4. My Uncle Jerry is eight years Trisha’s senior.
  5. I’d put the full citation on this letter, except then I’d have to put in information about Trisha, and remember what I said about not having her permission… and the fact that she knows where I live…
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16 Responses to Trisha’s birthday

  1. Paula Williams says:

    Aww! Thank you so much! (I say that on my behalf, not hers not yet).

    may I be able to hold her up once or twice in the years to come

    Oh, but you have, and then some! For all of us!

  2. Di says:

    Beautiful post and a wonderful tribute to a most extraordinary woman. Love you very much, Trisha, and have a great Day of Birth celebration, you deserve it, dearest heart!

  3. Mary Ann Thurmond says:

    Happy Birthday to Trish! Judy, you write such wonderful tributes! And I do have to say, dear cousin, that your nephew Dennis looks a great deal like you did as a child—and I can see Paula’s face very clearly in her mother’s pictures. I so wish time travel could quickly take me to the east coast to give all of my cousins there a hug!

    • Judy G. Russell says:

      We sure wish you could come east, Mary Ann — or we could go west. Sigh… where’s that transporter when we need it???

      • Mary Ann Thurmond says:

        Well, Elon Musk is purportedly working on a transport tube which will get one from the Bay Area? to Los Angeles in half an hour. That doesn’t do much for getting us from west to east—or vice versa!!!

  4. Most of us are real proud to be listed on the 1940 census, a few months old. At least, I know I am! Aunts are very special people, for sure! ;-)

  5. Trisha says:

    Thank you for the lovely comments and the birthday wish. It’s a good thing you included pictures, though, because I’m not sure I would have recognized myself…..I’m not nearly that nice. You sure are a good story teller though.
    Your love and friendship are so special to so many of us. I don’t know what we would do without your sweet spirit.

    • Judy G. Russell says:

      The birthday girl!! Sure wish I could have made it a few more miles south today to give you a birthday hug! Next time, perhaps!

  6. Leigh says:

    I really enjoyed this post and wonderful tribute to your aunt

  7. A wonderful post, Judy! I love this tribute to this special aunt of yours. Most of us have an aunt close to our age, I guess; at least I do, and my husband does. This makes me think of them.

    Happy Birthday, Trish!

  8. Debi Austen says:

    A beautiful tribute – happy birthday, Trisha!

    I never had any aunts other than one by marriage. I feel like I missed out in the relative lottery :-(

    • Judy G. Russell says:

      I do realize, only too well, that I lucked out in that lottery, Debi. As much as it hurts when I’ve lost relatives, I am so very grateful for all the ones I’ve had and all the years I’ve had them.

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