Oh to be in Albuquerque

My cousins’ 50th anniversary

There are times in all of our lives when we wish we could be in two places at one time. And the older we get, and the more precious the times that we can spend with those we love, the more we wish we could be in two places at one time.

And boy does that hit home this weekend.

Because The Legal Genealogist is stuck at home this weekend, with obligations that can’t be changed, moved, rescheduled…

… and oh… do I ever want to be in Albuquerque. With these folks.

Dick.Julie

Dick is my second cousin, Julie his bride. And tomorrow afternoon, in Albuquerque, they and their family and friends are gathering to celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary.

This story begins many years ago when I had posted a message on what was then the Genealogy.com message board asking for information about my great grandfather Martin Gilbert Cottrell. Some months later, a reply was posted by a woman whose name I didn’t recognize at all: “Do you know of a Totsy Cottrell that is part of the M.G. Cottrell family?”

Totsy was my mother’s nickname. So, I wondered, who was this mysterious woman posting questions about my mother?

I answered with some details and ended my post with my own question: “May I ask what your connection is with my mother?”

And the reply nearly sent me over the brink. No information, just another question: “Was your mother married in Golden Colorado in the School of Mines chapel?”

Um… not exactly but that’s awfully close, so… lady … for cryin’ out loud, talk to me, will ya? (Okay, so I was a little more formal in my public response, but not much!!)

It turns out the poster was a researcher looking into our family for my mother’s cousin Fred, the man who walked her down the aisle at that wedding. Fred had some interest in the family history, but, it turned out, the ones who were really interested were Fred’s nephew Dick and his wife Julie.

We began writing, then arranged a visit. And rarely in my life have I ever spent time with anyone with whom I was so immediately at ease. Lovely folks, people you just feel good about being related to.

They’ve had their ups and downs in the years since we met in person. Some fabulous travels (even ending up in the middle of the Egyptian turmoil at one point). Some health issues that plague them still. And they remain — always and forever — lovely folks, people you just feel good about being related to.

And, sigh, tomorrow afternoon, in Albuquerque, they and their family and friends are gathering to celebrate their 50th wedding anniversary.

Would that I could be there with them. But I’ll just have to settle for wishing them the very happiest of wedding anniversaries… and many more happy anniversaries to come.

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5 Responses to Oh to be in Albuquerque

  1. Beautiful post! I wish I knew them.

  2. Magda says:

    HAPPY ANNIVERSARY to your cousins . 50 is a big number . They look like nice people for family .

  3. Arthur J. Gottlieb says:

    Ms. Russell,
    You are absolutely right on about Dick and Julie. They are wonderful folks. Both Dick and I attended NMMI, separated by 10 years (+or-); and I first met him at an Alumni Reception here in Albuquerque. I just wanted to thank you for the information on Morris Gottlieb, Dick’s Grandfather. I only met Morris once when I was just a little boy and so I only vaguely remember him. The same is true of Fred Gottlieb, Morris’ son. Recently, I visited Fred’s Grave at the National Cemetery in Santa Fe, according to his Gravel Stone Fred was a first Lieutenant in the Army. Thanks again for the information. Art Gottlieb

    • Judy G. Russell says:

      Nice to hear from you, Art. You and I share a pair of stars in our New Mexico cousins, don’t we? Fred was my mother’s first cousin and Dick, of course, is my second cousin. Glad I could help a little on your Gottlieb side of Dick’s ancestry!

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