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A thoughtful piece for us all to consider

Just how far do we go, as genealogists, with information that we discover in the course of our research?

kindnessThis is an issue with any kind of genealogical research. We can find out about illegitimacies in the census and vital records. We can find out about misdeeds and missteps in court and probate and police records. There are all kinds of family stories — and family secrets — that appear in the ordinary records we use day to day.

And, of course, there are stories and secrets hidden in our DNA.

So when we bring those stories and those secrets to the surface, do we always shine a light on them? Just how far do we go in forcing the issue?

That’s the focus of a terrific post by my friend and colleague Debbie Parker Wayne, Certified Genealogist® and genetic genealogy specialist, in her blog Deb’s Delvings in Genealogy. The post, from yesterday, is titled “Respect and Rights” — and it should be must reading for us all.

Take a moment, please, and read “Respect and Rights“.

And think about it.

Think long and hard.

Deb’s point is critical: “We should be willing to accept that not everyone else believes as we do. In my opinion, forcing anyone to confront an issue he or she is not ready to handle is wrong. Consider the consequences of an action on others before forcing an issue. Good philosophies to follow include the golden rule, ‘do unto others as you would have them do unto you;’ the silver rule, ‘do nothing to others you would not have done to you;’ and the Navajo saying about ‘walking a mile in the other guy’s moccasins.’ Respect.”

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